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Active in the Sex Toy Sphere
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I feel like a lucky duck lately. I won the contest over at Eden Cafe for a OhMiBod Freestyle, and I also just won the Tunti Monthly contest for a Tunti. I’m quite excited about these and can’t wait for them to come in so I can try them out. I’ve heard so many great things about both of them.
My slave and I have been speaking about tightening his freedom. He, actually, is the one who brought it up. He says that, although wearing his collar and women’s panties do help him remember his place, it doesn’t keep him in the slave mindset. I think I’ve, at the very least, settled on doing a nightly ritual to keep him rememberig it every day.
I think, every night, at eleven, he’s going to go into the bedroom by himself. Until 11:15, he will clean up and get ready for bed including having all of my things ready for bed. After he’s done with that, he is to medidate and write in his journal until 11:45. At 11:45 until midnight, we will talk about any concerns he has for the day/slavery and then go to bed afterwards.
Questions for his journal may include: “What productive things did you do during the day?” “What important events happened today?”
Another thing that will be put into place is times he is allowed to use the bathroom. Right now, he has to ask for permission when he’s around me but when he’s not around me he doesn’t have to. We’re going to change that. He will be allowed to use the restroom once when he wakes up. He may ask for permission anytime he’s in my company. When he’s not in my company, at university, he will have specific times to go between certain classes and only then.
On an unrelated note, I got my first article published at Eden Cafe. It was on my experience with pegging. You should go read it. I have another one coming out dealing with Body Image soon. I have another to write about watersports.
My new blog that will be hosted on its own domain should be up within the next week. Lots of changes going on.
BDSM Series: Riding Crop
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I’m going to start a small series for help with different BDSM toys. It will include things to consider when buying them, safety concerns when using them, and different uses for the toys once you actually have them in your hands. Todays installment is going to be about riding crops.
Buying a Riding Crop
If you choose to hang your riding crop up when you’re not using it, make sure to look for a strap on the end of the handle. Aside from that, there’s a couple other things you will want to consider.
Images from edenfantasys.com. Text explaining this is below.
If you want more pain, get something that’s very small. Picture 1 (Narrow Tip Crop from Eden Fantasys) is a good example of this. Because it’s so small, it will cause more pain. If you want less pain for the bottom during use, get one with a bigger “tip”. You want something that has more surface area to cause less pain. Picture 2 (Riding Crop from Eden Fantasys) is a good example of this. This is because it has more surface to disperse the hit through rather than having a tinier surface that deals with all of the blow.
Both images from edenfantasys.com. Text explaining these is below.
Another consideration is what the tip is made out of. If it uses a floppy piece of leather, then it *will* wrap around and cause more pain. Picture 1 (Mini Crop Medium from Eden Fantasys) is a good example. You can see that the leather is very flimsy and will move around during use. Anything that is firm will cause less pain than something that is allowed to wrap around. Picture 2 (Fresh Flower Crop from Eden Fantasys) shows this wonderfully. It’s firm leather and has no give, so it will not move while being swung.
Another great thing about riding crops is the versatility in the tips. Some have little hearts and some are just plain. With a hard-enough hit, it will leave an imprint on the skin. I’m sure if you look around different stores, you’ll notice cute little ones that will leave imprints.
The next consideration is one I can’t show you through pictures. The long “pole” that connects the tip to the handle is usually made of different strengths and consistencies. Some will be very flexible while others will be very rigid. For a beginner, I do recommend more rigid because they are easier to control. They also will do less damage because they don’t wrap around. More flexible ones will “move” during the swing, giving it more momentum behind the swing, and thus, they do hurt more.
Riding crops also usually come in different sizes. They may come as small as 16 inches and may go all the way up to 28 inches. It’s a personal preference as to which size you prefer. However, if your play partner has bigger hips or butt, you may want to consider having a longer riding crop just so you can cover all of the surface area in your swings. However, remember that, as the riding crop gets longer, it becomes more dangerous and harder to control as well. If you’re a beginner, I recommend a shorter crop.
Safety Issues
Riding crops are BDSM toys and should be treated as such. You should never spring one of these on your partner without asking first. You should certainly never hit someone without having spoken about it before. If you want to incorporate it into your current relationship, make sure you’ve spoken about it.
Riding crops also can cause damage. If you’re a novice, you should only strike the butt of your partner especially if you’re doing hard swings. There are nerves on the rest of the body that can be harmed with strikes. Remember to take things slow and start with very light swings until you both get the hang of the riding crop. To get a taste of how hard you’re hitting, it’s considered very wise (and a very experienced thing to do – almost all BDSM practitioners do it) to hit yourself on the thigh with the crop to understand how much it will hurt.
Different Uses
For someone inexperienced with riding crops, you would thing that the only use is just to take a huge strike with it. This, of course, is not the case, and it’s actually more pleasurable to use it in different manners.
For example, the best way to use it is with very light taps with the tip along the skin. Possibly mix in a harder swat to the butt after doing a couple of those short, quick taps. Once again, all hard swats should, and MUST, stay to the butt to avoid doing damage to your partner.
Another way that most people don’t consider is to use it as a cane. This is not the most optimal choice for any riding crop with a soft, floppy tip, but for those with a firm tip, it’s a good method. Instead of hitting your target with the tip, slide the length of the crop back and forth against your partner’s skin in “forewarning” of what’s to come. Then slowly put back and hit them using the middle part of the crop instead of the tip. I wouldn’t do this one too hard because it does hurt. Most people prefer to place a strike like this one right where the back of the thighs meet the butt.
Of course, the most obvious way to use a riding crop is to use the tip to hit something. However, that is painful, so I wouldn’t hit hard. Also, why not consider mixing in your little hits with dragging the riding crop sensually along the skin. Nobody says it always has to be painful. In fact, it’s more fun and lasts longer if you mix in pleasure as well.
Sidenotes
I guess I’d have to say that riding crops are a good place to start. They’re one of the easiest BDSM toys to control. They’re easy and cheap to find, and they come in such varieties that it’s also fun to collect more. I will (hopefully) be adding a video to this post about the different uses of the crop within the near future. It’s so much easier to show than just to use text. Of course, this is also just advice, and I’m not responsible if you choose to disregard this advice and end up harming someone. All pictures in this post were also originally from Eden Fantasys.
The Erotic Touch of a Stranger
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I created this story for the S-Spot story contest. It didn’t win nor place, but I figured it deserved it’s own little time here on the blog. It’s probably because it was BDSM themed with no sex. 
Besides, I’ve been meaning to get more stories up. I guess this is my readers Holiday present.
It was dark outside, and the park was almost completely abandoned. We’d arranged to meet here, after hours, during a conversation online earlier. I’d checked his references, spoken to him at munches, and arranged a safe call with one of my best friends just in case. We’d spoken about one of my fantasies earlier, and then he commanded me to meet him here. I crossed my legs as I noticed a man walking down the pavement.
The man approached me, and it was Him. Without asking for an introduction, he stood above me and laid his hand on the top of my head. “Do you consent to what is about to happen?”
Do I consent? What was going to go on here? What was he going to do to mean? We’d spoken on my fantasies, but is this really one I wanted to play out? I’d spoken to him, but to trust this perfect stranger to keep me safe was ridiculous. Never-the-less, I slowly looked up and met his eyes and nodded my head.
He continued. “Your safe word is “banana”. You are not to look into my eyes nor are you to speak unless spoken to or to use your safe word. You will be mine to do with what I will until I’m done with you.”
As he said that, he slowly ran his fingers along the side of my face, letting his fingernails drag across my skin. As he slipped his hand underneath my throat and grasped me by it, and I felt s0 controlled by a perfect stranger. I couldn’t struggle – I couldn’t move. This is exactly what I wanted.
He used his grip on me to drag me over to a nearby tree where he shoved my face into the bark of a tree, bending me over at the waist, and forcing me to wrap my arms around the trees in a manner that was uncomfortable. Slipping something over my head, I felt as the soft silk covered my eyes. A blindfold?! What was he going to do to me?
As I clasped my hands more tightly around the tree, he pulled my skirt up over my ass, pulling down my panties and leaving me completely exposed. Completely vulnerable to any passer-by that chose to walk by. I tried to wiggle to get my skirt to go back down, but it didn’t work. I felt the cool breeze on my wet pussy and bit my lower lip to keep from letting Him know how arousing he was to me.
I felt the soft touch of cotton rope around my wrists. I felt as the rope pulled tight, and when I heard him step away, I attempted to pull my wrists out of it. All it did was cause the cotton rope to bite deeply into my skin. There was no way I was getting away from him. I was completely under his control. The thought was arousing, and I bit my lower lip a bit harder.
I felt his warm palms run over the soft, pale skin of my ass. His nails dragged once again over my skin, and as he gave me a firm slap there, I gasped in surprise. I knew he was punishing me for being a naughty girl. I knew he was going to punish me for being such a slut in the middle of the night. In the park where anyone could find me.
He dragged his fingernails up my bare thighs, scratching the skin. It was so painful yet so erotic. I wanted more pain. As he leaned over my bent body, I felt his warm breath on my neck. He bit the back of my ear, and I moaned out loud. I felt his clothed hardness pressing up against the bare skin of my ass. I wanted him. I wanted him more than anything else.
The thought made me whimper, and he slapped me again, leaning over my body to bite my ear roughly. “You’ve been a bad girl. I’m going to have to show you what happens to naughty girls. And guess what? Bad girls don’t need men to attend to them. They turn themselves on.”
He leaned his weight off of me. He start digging into my purse, and I waited as I heard my phone buttons being dialed. “Cindy? Your friend here is pretty tied up in Central Park, and I think she’d appreciate it if you could come get her.” I heard him snap the phone shut then slapped my ass hard. So hard my face rammed into the bark of the tree. “Guess you’re going to have to wait for her to get here. I think I’m done with you.”
Under the blindfold, my eyes shot open. Leave me here? What? I knew we’d discussed it, but to actually do it?! I was about to be left in this public park to be discovered by anyone who happened to come by. Would he really leave me here like this?
I heard his footsteps slowly walk away.
I guess he would.
Great Contests
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There’s a couple great contests going on right now, and I thought I’d clue you guys in if you haven’t seen them already.
Fetlife, which is the kinky person’s social networking site, is actually holding a contest for all sorts of BDSM gear. They actually have 217 different prizes that will be awarded, and all you have to do is register for an account and choose your top three. Good contest if I do say so myself.
Eden Cafe is also having a great contest over at their website to give away a Wireless Freestyle OhMiBod worth about one hundred dollars. It wirelessly connects to your music player and vibrates to it. Sounds like a fun present to me. All you have to do is leave a comment there to enter that one.
Let me know if you know of any other great contests. Enjoy your Holidays!
TMI Tuesday
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1. What present do you hope ends up under you tree?
Sex toy-wise, I’d love a spanking bench. Obviously, since the only people who know about my BDSM interests happen to be broke at the moment, it won’t happen. Realistically speaking, I am hoping for a Kodak Easy Share camera and some giftcards. Plus some spending money hopefully.
2. What is the “naughtiest” thing you have ever done under a Christmas tree?
As a kid, I used to try and climb it. And yes, that is the extent of everything “naughty” I’ve done under a tree. This year is actually the first year that my slave and I have even had a Christmas tree. Last year, we used a floor lamp to store our presents underneath. It was actually kind of pathetic.
3. Do you prefer to give or receive?
Depends. For the most part, I love to give. I’m usually just not the comfortable with receiving. However, I do love the suspense that comes with not knowing what someone else is giving you.
4. What is your favorite part off a sexual partner’s body?
Depends on the person. I do love my slave’s hair. It’s always so soft and long looking. (At least when its clean.) I also love his broad shoulders and semi-muscular arms. They’re feminine but still looking muscular without being overly so. As I love beating the crap out of him (hehe), I also love his ass. He’s received quite a few compliments about how feminine his ass is, and I think it’s perfect for flogging and caning.
5. What is your favorite part your body – the one you hope a sexual partner will find or pay the most attention to?
I love it when my slave decides to place or trace his fingers around my lower back especially near my spine. It’s a part that rarely receives any attention.
Questions stolen from Sarahbear.
